I got married at the ripe age of twenty and I have been married for thirteen years now. I think that for the most part, I have a productive and happy marriage. I also think that it's important that I start with that statement before I write this.
It's fair to say that every woman in the world is attracted to handsome guys. Call it nature, nurture or just plain lust but there's just something hot about a nice set of abs and a tush that is tight enough to bounce a quarter off of. I don't care if we're talking a young stud in his twenties (Jake Gyllenhal) or--my personal favorite--a man who's aged like fine wine (Patrick Dempsey), handsome is hot. He can be polished and poised (think Brad Pitt) or rugged and ruddy (hello Rick Schroeder).
But I submit to you that perhaps there is another kind of hot--an overlooked hot. Perhaps there is another kind of guy that is attractive in an unusually eclectic way. I believe that a highly ignored breed of men that more women need to pursue is the nerd. I know I know, the pocket protector sounds so unappealing and I've been very vocal on my feelings of Dungeons and Dragons but there's so much untapped potential in nerdy guys. Plus, when you hook yourself to a smart, educated, thinker, you don't have to worry as much about having to bust your own butt to make ends meet. Love becomes a partnership. Hunky meat heads who don't have two brain cells to rub together may be nice eye candy can't offer you the security that a cute nerd can.
I think I've always had a penchant for nerds. It wasn't something that did purposefully but something that just seemed happen. Case in point--my first boyfriend kept a copy of Gray's Anatomy by his bed and read it every night before going to sleep. Personally, I think that a book on the human anatomy would bore me to sleep every time but he was fascinated by all of the diagrams and the information. That's not normal at fifteen. That's nerdy.
When I was in the eighth or ninth grade, I became a huge Star Trek the Next Generation fan. It wasn't because I was interested in science fiction because I could care less. What I was interested in was Wesley Crusher. The secondary character played by Wil Wheaton became a little bit of an obsession to me. Why is that? I think because Wesley--and the actor Wil--were both card carrying and self professed nerds. I'd watch him with his perfectly coiffed hair and skinny body and think "Wow, he's so great." Gag.
I still keep up with Wil Wheaton. He's still a nerd and he keeps a blog of his own. It's found at http://www.wilwheaton.net/ and he's admitted several times that he is of the nerd persuasion. In fact last week there was a picture of him playing--you guessed it--Dungeons and Dragons! NERD. I love it! I commented on something he wrote a few years ago and he actually wrote me two emails back. They're still in my inbox. Kind of cool.
So how does Mark fit into all of this? My husband goes on a sixteen mile bike ride every day for lunch and then comes home and runs in the evenings. Let me tell you, he has the sexiest legs I've ever seen on a man and his butt is pretty cute too. I guess he's a second generation jock but he doesn't care to watch it on TV--unless it's running or a triathlon and those barely ever play. What would he rather do in his free time? Make Excel spreadsheets and play video games. And--get this--when he was in college, he played DUNGEONS AND DRAGONS with his friends! I married a nerd and I love it!
So there you have it people. Nerds rule the world. Ask Bill Gates and he'll tell you the same thing. Looks fade but brains are there forever.
I do love me some nerd.
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